‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent’
I’m lucky enough to have a Mum who reminds me of this wonderful Eleanor Roosevelt quotation whenever a day has proved too hard, or people too cruel.
In ten words it completely surmises the respect and pride you should have in yourself, and to not let the seeds of doubt planted by others grow in your mind.
The last few weeks have been a bit of a roller-coaster (when does life not have it’s ups and downs I know!) and a lot of circumstance that I have found myself dealing with, has been unexpected, draining and not so good for personal morale!
I’ve sat here for about twenty minutes deliberating what to write, what to divulge and what I shouldn’t include, and I guess essentially it’s not entirely relevant for the overall point I want to get across.
Suffice to say, that I have had a huge learning curve the last month, and through the highs and lows, I have realised that adversities are much better handled with a smile. Hardships can be laughable with a good friend, and that every now and then, even if it is logically the very last thing you should be doing…you can go and get horrendously drunk and dance to 90’s RnB at three in the morning (thankfully no photos of that to show!)
It’s hard writing this in a way that doesn’t come across as pompous, or preachy – or even (heaven forbid!)…Cheesy!
But I just think we all need reminding of our own value sometimes – like in ‘It’s a Wonderful Life’ when George realises how different the lives around him would have been had he not existed. You never know when you’re someones ray of sunshine, or when a quick phone call or kind word makes someone feel a hundred times better.
Before I continue, I’ll take a moment to explain that these photos were obviously taken on Brighton beach, on a cold but bright afternoon walk.
The pillars that I am standing by are part of the remains of the West Pier, built in the 1860’s, after all these years they have stood the test of time!
Also, I’m wearing a very comfy, very non-blog-worthy outfit! The smart shirt is a recent purchase from New Look – tres Annie Hall! My gorgeous antique coat was a gift from Margaux and Alec of The Splendid Suitcase – it’s so gorgeous!
My skinny jeans are an old Topshop pair, and my favourite sunglasses (more for wind protection than sun!) were from H&M.
And these little beauties were a gift from Modcloth last year! I adore them!
Someone who definitely deserves a tip of the hat for being my own (as afore mentioned) ray of sunshine, is Becca my flat mate! After finding ourselves in a very similar situation it’s been so lovely to have someone to not only seek comfort and hope from, but to provide for to!
From cooking ourselves nice meals (especially breakfast – conquer that and the rest of the day will sort itself out!) to decorating the flat (photos soon!) movie marathons, heart to hearts and a few too many cointreau’s!
It’s the little things that make a difference I suppose!
And whilst I can thank her for her emotional support…
Her physical support (ie. me not ending up on the floor!)
Leaves a lot to be desired! Ha!
So I guess in conclusion, I’m putting the ‘look inwards for strength’ myth to bed. Sure finding strength in yourself is a rewarding and a worthwhile pursuit. But in contrast, it is no easy task to seek help and support in others to get you through troubling times.
You don’t have to have all the answers, and you don’t have to be happy all the time.
What matters is that you assert yourself on dealing with whatever adversities you find yourself facing, and enlist the help of the ones you love to pull through.
You’d do the same for them after all!
And above all, be kind to yourself.
I need to keep reminding myself of that one.
Love Yours Truly, x